Stop!
Many of us live in the future or the past when our lives happen in the here and now.
We look forward to our next holiday, the next event – Xmas, marriage, a new job
And in this way we go from one event to the next never actually stopping to enjoy what we are doing right now.
And it’s not just the future. We also spend a lot of time in the past and whilst it’s good to learn from past mistakes, dwelling on them and wishing you’d done things differently – could have should have would have - is not helpful and just leads to misery and difficult emotions just as anger, regret and hopelessness.
We live in a fast changing digital world, even now global warming, AI, wars and famine are taking centre stage. This digital age could also be called the age of anxiety. When we keep rushing on and on anxiety is the result. Busyness is the opposite of stopping.
Constantly rushing, striving to achieve this or that, chasing whatever it is, money, love, peace or happiness – stopping is the answer. Slow down - physically and mentally.
Physically try Yoga, Tai Chi, slow walks, doing your housework and cooking mindfully, being present when answering emails, listening when chatting with friends or work colleagues.
Mentally try meditation, noticing what is around you, drinking and eating slowly.
Your mind can stop, it is capable of stillness. It is also possible to gain meta cognitive awareness, where you are aware of your busy mind but not drowning in it.
Let go of wanting. To let go of wanting is to achieve contentment with what is.
So gain some perspective, turn yourself upside down and just be for a while.
That is what stopping is all about - contentment
Many of us live in the future or the past when our lives happen in the here and now.
We look forward to our next holiday, the next event – Xmas, marriage, a new job
And in this way we go from one event to the next never actually stopping to enjoy what we are doing right now.
And it’s not just the future. We also spend a lot of time in the past and whilst it’s good to learn from past mistakes, dwelling on them and wishing you’d done things differently – could have should have would have - is not helpful and just leads to misery and difficult emotions just as anger, regret and hopelessness.
We live in a fast changing digital world, even now global warming, AI, wars and famine are taking centre stage. This digital age could also be called the age of anxiety. When we keep rushing on and on anxiety is the result. Busyness is the opposite of stopping.
Constantly rushing, striving to achieve this or that, chasing whatever it is, money, love, peace or happiness – stopping is the answer. Slow down - physically and mentally.
Physically try Yoga, Tai Chi, slow walks, doing your housework and cooking mindfully, being present when answering emails, listening when chatting with friends or work colleagues.
Mentally try meditation, noticing what is around you, drinking and eating slowly.
Your mind can stop, it is capable of stillness. It is also possible to gain meta cognitive awareness, where you are aware of your busy mind but not drowning in it.
Let go of wanting. To let go of wanting is to achieve contentment with what is.
So gain some perspective, turn yourself upside down and just be for a while.
That is what stopping is all about - contentment